
Ed.
note:
This
article
is
part
of
Parental
Leave
&
The
Legal
Profession,
a
special
series
for
Above
the
Law
that
explores
the
realities
of
parental
leave
and
return-to-work
in
law
firms.
From
planning
leave
to
reintegration,
from
the
role
of
managers
to
the
mental
load
of
Biglaw
parents,
these
articles
bring
research,
clinical
insight,
and
practical
strategies
to
help
lawyers
and
the
firms
that
employ
them
navigate
one
of
the
most
critical
transitions
of
their
careers.
Hiding
baby
bumps
under
flowy
tops.
Associates
dreading
the
“time-off”
conversation.
Managing
partners
saying
as
little
as
possible
so
they
don’t
“say
the
wrong
thing.”
How
can
something
so
commonplace
in
a
big
organization
—
after
all,
69
percent
of
US
adults
have
children
—
be
talked
about
so
little?
The
legacy
of
one-income
households
and
male-dominated
workforces
permeates
the
law
profession,
even
as
so
much
has
changed
in
legal
education,
opportunities
for
young
female
lawyers,
and
the
U.S.
workplace
generally.
That
means
that
taking
leave
is
still
perceived
as
contrary
to
firm
goals
and
a
net
loss
for
a
team
and
the
individual.
Systems
are
not
structured
to
plan
the
time,
optimize
it,
and
identify
and
appreciate
long-term
benefits
of
parental
leave.
Yet,
despite
the
fear
and
judgment
about
time
away,
policies
are
often
relatively
generous
at
law
firms,
for
legal
professionals
if
not
support
staff,
in
comparison
to
many
other
industries.
Law
firm
leave
policies
fill
a
gap
left
by
federal
policies
that
poorly
support
working
families
in
the
country.
The
United
States
is
the
only
OECD
country
without
mandatory
paid
leave.
In
the
past
several
years,
an
increasing
number
of
states
have
initiated
paid
leave
requirements;
big
firm
policies
generally
surpass
those
plans
as
well.
Four
to
six
months
(or
more)
of
leave
guaranteed
at
full
pay
sounds
like
a
dream
to
those
in
many
fields…
until
one
hears
stories
of
poor
treatment,
lost
opportunities,
and
being
sidelined
as
a
new
parent
in
a
way
that
sticks
in
the
long
term.
At
law
firms,
women
often
talk
about
pressure
to
return
early
and
pay
decreasing
after
they
return
from
leave.
They
share
stories
of
being
left
out
of
important
new
work
because
of
beliefs
about
their
capacity,
and
of
receiving
little
to
no
flexibility
around
how
they
return
to
intense
work
hours.
Meanwhile,
men
are
assumed
to
not
be
“primary
caregivers,”
an
outdated
categorization
alive
in
many
policies,
and
discouraged
from
asking
for
family
leave
or
taking
more
than
a
few
weeks
even
when
the
firm
has
policies
that
offer
more
expansive
leave.
We
regularly
hear
stories
of
those
who
say
their
decision
to
change
firms
was
a
direct
result
of
how
the
firm
handled
their
period
of
parental
leave.
The
parental
leave
topic
is
therefore
not
only
about
policy
and
compliance
but
also
about
culture.
A
2023
ABA
report
on
the
legal
careers
of
parents
and
child
caregivers
concluded
there
was
“an
urgent
need
to
change
the
paradigm”
after
finding
that
taking
leave
was
held
against
parents
and
that
61
percent
of
mothers
and
26
percent
of
fathers
experienced
demeaning
comments
about
being
a
working
parent.
In
a
2021
study,
35
percent
of
lawyers
surveyed
reported
that
their
advancement
to
partnership
was
negatively
affected
by
taking
parental
leave.
What
is
the
paradigm
shift
that
can
dislodge
the
patterns
and
assumptions
that
underly
unspoken
parent
penalties?
First,
there
is
a
need
to
address
the
topic
head
on
with
direct
communication
and
planning:
For
managers,
it’s
about
becoming
informed
and
planning
strategically
for
leave
periods,
communicating
openly
with
team
members.
Genuine
dialogue
covering
an
off-boarding
plan,
communication
preferences
during
leave,
and
a
re-onboarding
process
demonstrate
leadership
strength
and
trust
in
the
individual
and
wider
team
to
successfully
navigate
these
short-
or
medium-term
changes.
To
support
a
productive
and
loyal
workforce
in
the
real
world
over
the
long
term,
parental
leave
is
incorporated
in
workplace
culture
and
even
serves
as
a
professional
development
opportunity.
(Yes,
that’s
right!
Specific
forms
of
professional
development
through
parental
leave
will
be
explored
in
future
articles
of
this
series.)
In
our
experience,
a
few
strong
leaders
at
a
firm
who
ask
questions,
mentor
new
parents,
and
accept
life
events
as
inevitable
create
supportive
environments
and
engender
long-term
loyalty.
New
parents
who
leave
their
jobs
generally
do
so
as
a
result
of
poor
manager
support,
leaving
the
firm
rather
than
the
field.
The
flip
side
is
managers
who
work
to
retain
staff:
Parents
are
“an
incredibly
motivated”
workforce
and,
according
to
research
by
Vivvi,
provide
$18
in
benefit
for
every
$1
spent
on
supporting
them.
Just
consider
the
cost
of
recruiting,
onboarding,
and
training
new
hires
at
your
firm.
Paradigm
shifts
also
depend
on
communication
and
proactivity
by
lawyers
anticipating
leave.
Work
with
HR
and
partners
to
become
informed
about
policies
affecting
leave,
so
that
everyone
is
on
the
same
page.
Also,
consider
that
availing
of
leave
in
the
short
term
will
create
more
ease
in
the
long
term,
benefitting
mental
health,
careers,
the
firm,
and
families.
Throughout
the
process,
have
potentially
difficult
conversations:
Share
concerns
about
the
hidden
costs
of
leave
including
lost
opportunities
and
the
desire
to
be
kept
abreast
of
case
developments.
Express
a
desire
to
meet
new
clients
in
the
period
after
leave
and
address
assumptions
head
on
—
for
example,
the
willingness
to
travel
if
that’s
relevant.
The
more
we
speak
directly
about
career
development
needs,
the
less
people
decide
for
us.
Over
the
course
of
this
series,
we
will
address
what
is
often
a
communication
void
in
the
legal
profession,
flagging
common
biases,
conflicts,
and
opportunities
related
to
parental
leave.
Upcoming
articles
will
benefit
new
or
repeat
parents,
on
one
hand,
and
firm
management
on
the
other.
We’ll
dig
into
how
to
plan
your
leave
and
your
return
without
tanking
your
career
and
the
mental
load
of
working
parenthood
in
Biglaw
for
women
and
men.
We’ll
cover
what
managers
and
firms
need
to
do
differently
for
the
well-being
of
not
just
employees
but
the
firm
itself,
building
systems
and
strengthening
firm
culture.
We
have
practical
tips,
communication
strategies,
and
coaching
insights
to
share,
along
with
a
good
number
of
stories.
Consider
the
professional
development
opportunities
of
leave
and
how
lawyers
might
not
just
endure
leave
but
use
it
to
recharge
their
legal
careers.
Join
our
discussion,
no
matter
your
gender,
generation,
or
role
at
your
firm.
Marny
Requa,
JD
is
an
academic,
coach,
and
consultant
with
global
experience
and
gender
equity
expertise.
Dr.
Anne
Welsh
is
a
clinical
psychologist,
executive
coach,
and
consultant
with
a
specialization
in
supporting
working
parents
in
law.
Both
are
certified
RETAIN
Parental
Leave
Coaches,
engaging
a
research-backed
methodology
to
support
and
retain
employees
as
they
grow
their
families.






